Via Fast Company:
Of all of the office rituals, blowing off steam with a few beers after hours is likely the most beloved for many people. But not parents of young children—when they are already sacrificing quality time by working long hours, missing bedtime is a big deal.
Psychologist Art Markman helps a reader figure out a tricky work/life balance question: Do you have to go to happy hour with your coworkers?
I hope you can help me figure out how to navigate this social situation in my office. I’m on the soft-spoken/introverted side, but everyone in my office is very social—they are of the work-hard/play-hard mentality. Very few of them have children, and they all like to go out for drinks after work at least twice a week.
They often invite me (I think just out of politeness) but I always decline because I don’t feel comfortable, I’m not interested, and I have two young kids at home that I’d rather see for an hour before they go to bed than stand around awkwardly at a loud bar.
Is this a bad move for my career? Any suggestions on how I can be social in a way that isn’t uncomfortable and not have to change my personality completely?
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